Ever Heard the Serenity Prayer?
“God (or Divine, or Mystery, or Future), grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”
It’s not certain who wrote that prayer, but it is certain that it has helped a ton of people, myself included, weather life’s storms with more grace.
I’ve learned that it’s not as essential who or what I pray to, as long as I remember that the entire world is not resting on my 2 little shoulders. They are fine shoulders, and they hold what they are meant to hold (which is just not anywhere near the whole world).
I’ve observed that fears around money can artificially inflate my own sense of what’s on the list of things that I can change.
A helpful exercise can be to write the items on a sheet of paper. (Credit to 12 step programs for teaching me both the prayer and the exercise.)
So here’s my honest serenity prayer breakdown lately around my financial concerns (as an example for those of you who would like to try it but maybe haven’t done this before):
Mysterious and Kind Universe, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change:
~World financial markets, and the decisions of individual political leaders
~Anything that has already happened, including that I lost hard-earned money in the internet stock market bubble in my 20’s
~How other financial professionals treat me, and whether or not they believe spirituality and money are powerfully linked
~What it will take for someone to feel prepared to do work with me on these topics
~Blind spot material that is still in my blind spot
~Exactly how income taxes are spent and allocated by the respective government entities
~Anyone else’s political beliefs and level of influence
~Other peoples’ financial circumstances, and that I don’t have the magic money wand I wish I did to “fix it” for others
~That I got a $100 parking ticket in San Francisco. That was money I really wanted to allocate to savings, and now it’s just gone.
~Other peoples’ philosophies and practices around consumer debt
Courage to change the things I can:
~Keeping up with my YNAB, no matter how busy I get with other life stuff
~Working on my own spiritual traits of acceptance, compassion, fluid leadership, and creativity
~Studying topics I want to learn about. Including reaching out for help from potential teachers, and having the esteem to ask them to spend time with me that way
~How I keep my schedule, including what professional arrangements I agree to
~Being willing to say “I don’t know” when I don’t
~Being willing to share an educated opinion when I have one and it’s requested
And wisdom to know the difference.
So I pray that you are feeling clean and clear around your money today.
My backup prayer in case you don’t feel clean and clear around your money, is that the level of discomfort is as comfortable as it can possibly be for you to still get the lesson that your soul has invited.